As soon as we got engaged the advice started flowing:
"Spend more on flowers than on food, there are more photos of the flowers"
"Get your friends to photograph, they'll do just as good a job as anyone"
"Definitely get a professional to photograph your wedding, we didn't and we regret it"
"Spend up on the dress, who cares? It's your day"
"Flowers only last day and get chucked out, don't get expensive ones. Spend more on invitations"
"Invitations just get chucked out, so spend up on flowers!"
You get the idea!
It is nice to hear people's points of view and their different stories and experiences - even if you do giggle inside because someone told you to do the opposite 5 minutes ago.
I guess that major thing it all this has taught us is that we just need to figure out what is important to us and go ahead with that, rather than worrying about what other people are imagining for us.
So here are our big values that we keep coming back to:
including and honouring them as much as possible!
This is not just about two individuals, this is about two families.
weddings should be the best chance to celebrate and party
thinking outside the box and maybe forgoing a few traditions so that
this experience really reflects who we are as a couple